Falling in love with a colleague? Easy

If a romantic relationship is born between colleagues, the first rule is discretion. Here are some tips for how to behave in these situations.

The long and heavy hours spent in the office can also become pleasant. It happens when you fall in love with a colleague and start a lived relationship between computers and desks.

The workplace is the place where you spend most of the day, but above all where you share commitments, interests and activities. It is therefore understandable that there is a high degree of compatibility between colleagues and can therefore trigger the “spark” that triggers a sentimental relationship.

An analysis conducted on a sample of German employees found that at least 14% have or have had a romantic relationship in the workplace. Only 10% fell in love with a superior, women more than men. The vast majority (85%) fall in love with peers. In France, 20-30% of couples were formed in the office and about one in two Europeans would have had a relationship with a colleague.

An opportunity for those in search of love

In the office it is possible to meet every day, it easily creates a complicity that involves both the professional and private spheres. It is therefore the ideal place for those who are single, but also for those who already have a stable but unsatisfactory union, and are looking for an escape.

The relationship with a colleague, however, can also trigger dynamics of competition and control, or even put your career at risk, if you do not manage it carefully. A “side effect” could then be to bring professional issues into the couple’s life, or vice versa.

The rule to follow in case of “ongoing loves” is always to keep professional and private life carefully separate.

The beginning of a love story

Better to live outside the professional field the first steps of a relationship, to understand if it is a passing infatuation or the beginning of a more serious bond. If the feeling is consolidated, we can evaluate together if, how and after how long to involve work colleagues, paying attention to continue to carry out their task with maximum commitment to defend themselves from any criticism that the relationship may affect productivity.

But what do colleagues think about office reports? A research French investigated this “thorny” aspect. According to the survey, workers would like the company to provide some guidance on the subject, while employers would be convinced that any intervention would be an invasion into the private sphere of employees. In fact, it would sometimes be counterproductive.

But everyone asks the colleagues who live the love story an indispensable quality: discretion. For this reason it is advisable to minimize confidences with colleagues about your love story: it is better not to feed useless chatter or interference that could affect both the couple’s life and work results.