Erotic fantasies: when it is good to confess them to your partner

In a moment of decline in desire, sharing one’s own fantasy with one’s partner can help to awaken the complicity of the couple.

It can happen to all couples to find themselves in a moment of sexual apathy. But often we do not talk about it, waiting for everything to work out by itself. “It is the most common mistake, without thinking that in this way the problem becomes more and more protagonist, and to pay the price is the balance between the partners” explains Roberta Rossi, president of FISS, Italian Federation of Scientific Sexology.

“The issue must instead be addressed with serenity in order to bring out the possible cause. That he is almost never a third person, as is often thought, tormenting himself. Most of the time, however, it is the daily difficulties that make you invest your energy in other areas, to the detriment of sexual life».

Fantasies to share

To awaken the complicity of the couple and consequently the desire, erotic fantasies can play a role. Having them is completely normal and there is nothing wrong.

Sharing them with your partner helps to stimulate the so-called hormones of desire and start all those series of events that culminate in erection for him and orgasm for her. And that’s not all. Erotic fantasies enhance the inventiveness of the person, reveal aspects of the personality that have perhaps remained in the shadows in recent years and disrupt repetitive patterns, in favor of a renewal in the couple’s life.

Help to regain complicity

Yes then to erotic fantasies, therefore, provided however that you do not exceed some limits that would only make the other person feel uncomfortable and increase the risk of fracture in the case of an already fragile relationship.

“The goal is to design something with your partner, even just an hour alone in your own home – says the expert. It helps to awaken the complicity of the couple and consequently the desire».

There is no shortage of examples of fantasies to share because they are useful to both. Like a date, similar to those of teenagers. Here fantasies play a role in the construction of how the meeting will be, from clothing to what will happen. Or, imagine being the protagonists of the well-known scene of “The Postman Always Rings Twice”. Or again, combine fantasies with the taste of the forbidden and surprise your partner with thoughts that lead to making love, really or in the imagination, in the elevator or in the car in a secluded area.

But be careful. If within six months you do not find the balance, it is better to seek help from a specialist in sexology.

Joycelyn Elders is the author and creator of EmpowerEssence, a health and wellness blog. Elders is a respected public health advocate and pediatrician dedicated to promoting general health and well-being.

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